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You’ll See It When You Believe It

Change the way you look at things, the things you look at change

“Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change.”

One of my all-time fave philosophies. Change. It’s powerful beyond measure, and also crippling as hell. Sigh. There’s been another death in my life.

I shared in a recent post that my Mom changed residences from her comfy loving home here on earth to somewhere, hopefully, even more wonderful. For you straight-shooters: she died. I wrote of how for me, Mom’s passing was a positive, enlightening experience and I have felt very little of the grief that I had been forewarned of and feared most of my life – and I LOVED my Mom! I valued my relationship with her greatly; she was a beautiful spirit that brought only good things to my life – the most obvious being my heart, lungs and brain! Read more about my ‘positive’ experience here, but to reinforce the sentiments of that post: today, fifteen weeks later and the day after her birthday, I’m still just revering Mom’s death with a smile! My world has felt a bit off its axis for sure, and her absence has me a wee bit out of sorts: but contrary to my fears, her loss has brought little pain. And let me say again clearly: I loved that woman dearly.

Best teachers help you find your own pathSo why then, has the death of someone I have never even met left me heartbroken?!? Psychologist, philosopher, author, speaker, “father of motivation” and master of the above “Change” quote, Dr. Wayne Dyer, passed unexpectedly on August 30th, 2015. Wayne’s work influenced every field related to mental and physical health, motivation, personal development, professional development, spirituality, education. Any of those things relevant to your life? Then so was Wayne.

I wrote a post on Wayne a while back so I won’t regurgitate his bio and deets, rather, I’m just so curious as to why I, alongside millions of others, felt such shock, sadness and utter loss upon hearing of Wayne’s passing. Clearly, he was a teacher for me. I’ve often been asked: “what teacher impacted you the most growing up”; questioners expectantly awaiting a gushy, grateful idolizing of one of my public-school teachers. I could indeed provide a high-school teacher’s name: Mr. Toews. Pronounced “Taves”. My Grade 9 Social Studies teacher. Why? Because he had a mini-guillotine on his desk and would behead a pencil if I walked in late for class. Still echoing in my soul, Mr. Toew’s sinister voice: “Loughlinnn!!!” CHOP! This anchored to my young psyche forevermore, that being late wasn’t necessarily a bad thing: the flying pencil-head was pretty cool. Otherwise, not a damn thing resonated under Mr. Toew’s tutelage; and it has really bothered me not to be able to name a single school teacher who even slightly inspired me. I’m sure I came out of public school with a decent memorization Off with your head!of some useful (and a lot more totally useless) information and some handy skills, however, no galvanizing direction, having never been approached by anyone in the education system – EVER, offering me personal context, incentive, or even a bolstering of curiosity as to how this ‘education’ could be harnessed “to be anything I wanted to be“. Ditto for college: strong contributing factors as to why it took me so long to identify my calling, me thinks. Wayne Dyer impacted my life greater than any “formal” teacher I’ve ever had: encouraging me to shift my definition and means of education; to shamelessly pursue my tribe, fulfillment, joy; and, most importantly, inspiring a desire to inspire others. And I’ve never met the man.

You got some 'splainin!

CONT’D: So why tears for a stranger, when I barely shed them for Mom? And…see how Wayne made me a believer in the ‘afterlife’!
PLUS: Are You A Self-Help Whore?? (page 2)

DYERect Your Thoughts

What you think, mattersWe can’t have a thought-full conversation without including one of the foremost “toughtleaders”, Wayne Dyer. Wayne was one of the first triumphant souls able to break through to the masses and engage us in conversations about consciousness and the power of thought.  Why him? That would definitely be a philosophical conversation, but in a nutshell:  his amiable personality and timing. In his early work, Wayne presented the every-man perspective: not too philosophical, preachy or woo-woo – simply relatable. He blended self-development and spirituality together with the new evidence-based science both palatably and digestibly for a mainstream fast-food mindset. The concepts resonated at the heart-level and made logical sense, thus earning “credibility” and a loyal following.

I love that Wayne openly challenges his own understanding of thought as it shape-shifts Wayne Dyerthrough his education and experiences, which have included varying spiritual practices, parenthood, illness, and the lightning-speed of neuroscience and functional medicine research.  Did you know that he relinquished all of his assets (Wayne Dyer’s assets!!) and belongings, including his shoes, to authentically experiment with a new (to him) modality of life?!  Fundamentally, he has always reinforced that our thoughts – whether conscious or latent, spontaneously impact our perspectives, actions and choices: how much and where we focus our thoughts, manifests proportionately.  Additionally, he has consistently supported the impact of our thoughts on the physiological, bio-chemical reactions in our human body (a true “functional” medicine pioneer).

We all have the power: “Change Your Thoughts, Change Your Life”, so says one of Wayne’s books and PBS documentary (see here on page 2!) based on his shoeless exploration of the Tao Te Change Your LifeChing (“dow da jing”), an ancient eastern wisdom; and case-in-point of Wayne’s broadmindedness to funnel some non-mainstream but timeless insights in a way that relates to our closed-minded perceptions of what will work in the modern world.

Wayne has manifested many books and other “products” of spiritual value by sharing his own evolvement; and being one of the first to impact the “commercial” self-help industry, he’s at risk of a bad rap by the fearful and the stuck! His work is nothing short of brilliant and enlightening; he impacts both spiritual novices and scholars. The evolution of his work has simplicity and common sense at it’s depth, though his own personal path is highly philosophical (still simple!).  Like anything else, you hear a message when you are ready to hear it, and Wayne’s work definitely has a message for you somewhere, sometime (quite likely, a life-changing one)! This man challenges me in his lateral thinking and inspires me through his authenticity; and I look forward to any interview with him, and any endorsements from him.

Give Wayne’s work some consideration in your self-exploration; this article is excerpted from his 2001 “10 Secrets for Success and Inner Peace”, which time-wise, falls after his public skyrocket, and before the Tao journey and of course, his more recent introspective battle with leukemia. It’s a great primer re: his general ideology of thought!

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Authentic Wisdom

– by Dr. Wayne Dyer

“Believe that life is worth living, and your belief will help create that fact.”
– William James

“Nothing is, unless our thinking makes it so.” – William Shakespeare

Every single thought you have can be assessed in terms of whether it strengthens or weakens you, in fact, there’s a simple muscle test you can do to try out any thought that you’re having in the present moment. It works like this:

NextThoughts That Weaken You, Thoughts That Strengthen You (page 2)

100 Most Spiritually Influential

Every spring Watkins Mind Body Spirit magazine publishes a list of 100 most spiritually influential living people according to specific criteria (below), most notable: living. With this in mind, I don’t see anyone major missing from the list, and sadly, some will be omitted next year, including a personal favorite, Debbie Ford (#86).

The word “influential”, of course, takes on a few perspectives: the message, and the number of people accessing the message. When I read the criteria of the Watkins list, I first thought: who cares about google searches?  Then I re-evaluated: although the number of searches doesn’t define if a message has more value than another, it does represent how much a message is being shared i.e. influential.  Still, I was very surprised that some on the list were positioned where they were, case in point, Louise Hay (#45), who has undoubtedly created the most accessible personal development library on the planet with her radio station, publishing house, marketing division, and education series; a good chunk of the listees gained both their best opportunity and popularity on Louise’s back!  That said, I bet Louise would be the first to remind me, no message is more or less valuable than another if it means something to you right here, right now. Which reminds me to remind you, at different times in our lives we are more receptive to a message or perspective, so I highly encourage you to re-read some of your old favorites to see what new messages you may get from them; and shelf or note the books that seem whatever right now, and revisit them later – chances are that if you picked it up in the first place, there’s a message in there for you when you’re ready
to hear it.

While I would re-order this list based on my personal experience, so would every one of you! Watkins list is very fair based on their criteria. -SL


Watkins’ Spiritual
100 List for 2013

(Issue 33, Spring 2013)
We are delighted to share with you our
2013 list of the 100 Most Spiritually
Influential Living People
This marks the third year that we are publishing our 100 list. We’ve done our best to consider as many people as possible and our spiritual database includes the names of over six hundred candidates from which we selected the list of the top 100, highlighting the most proactive individuals – ranging from political and religious leaders to spiritual writers, filmmakers and visionary artists.

This list is meant to serve as a positive guide to some of the leading modern teachers that are alive today, and we hope that you are as inspired as we are by their impact. We hope it helps our readers discover new authors and inspirational ideas.

This year’s list is more global and diverse than ever before. The youngest person on the list is Jeff Foster (32 years old) and the oldest person is Kyozan Joshu Sasaki (105 years old). We are also sad to report that Stephen Covey who was on last year’s list, passed away in July, 2012. There are several factors that were taken into account when compiling the list. The main three criteria are:

1) The person has to be alive
2) The person has to have made a unique and spiritual contribution
on a global scale
3) The person is frequently googled, and is actively talked about on the internet; for writers, the book sales via Nielsen Data are also considered.

By taking into account the amount of times that a person is googled, the list gains a highly democratic parameter. In a sense, being googled is a form of digital voting, and illustrates just how often someone is being sought out. Additionally, we were highly selective in creating this list and did our best to remove candidates who spread messages that were hateful or intolerant.

Ultimately, this list is meant to celebrate the positive influence of contemporary spiritual teachers.

Watkins’ Mind Body Spirit magazine publishes the 100 Most Spiritually Influential Living People list on an annual basis and we welcome your feedback and suggestions in the comments below.

LIST AT A GLANCE: (scroll down for the top-10 in detail)

1. Dalai Lama 35. Marianne Williamson 68. Richard Rohr
2. Thich Nhat Hanh 36. Andrew Weil 69. Jeff Foster
3. Eckhart Tolle 37. Elizabeth Gilbert 70. Colin Wilson
4. Deepak Chopra 38. Steve Taylor 71. Tony Parsons
5. Rhonda Byrne 39. Iyanla Vanzant 72. Judy Hall
6. Dr. Wayne W Dyer 40. Esther Hicks  73. Pema Chödrön
7. Paulo Coelho 41. Mantak Chia 74. John Bradshaw
8. Oprah Winfrey 42. Masaru Emoto 75. Richard Bandler
9. Nelson Mandela 43. Erich von Däniken 76. Liz Greene
10. Byron Katie 44. Lisa Williams 77. Michael Newton
11. Alice Walker 45. Louise L. Hay 78. Daisaku Ikeda
12. Alex Grey 46. James Redfield 79. Jack Kornfield
13. Doreen Virtue 47. Stuart Wilde 80. Vladimir Megre
14. Richard Bach 48. Mooji 81. Rowan Williams
15. Desmond Tutu 49. John Gray 82. Rupert Spira
16. Francis Chan 50. Ken Wilber 83. John & Caitlín Matthews
17. Sri Sri Ravi Shankar 51. Krishna Das 84. Kathy Jones
18. Robin Sharma 52. Drunvalo Melchizedek 85. Huston Smith
19. Kyozan Joshu Sasaki 53. Dan Millman 86. Debbie Ford
20. Gregg Braden  54. Adyashanti 87. Rupert Sheldrake
21. Neale Donald Walsch 55. Graham Hancock 88. Stanislav Grof
22. Amma 56. Bob Proctor 89. Don Miguel Ruiz
23. Andrew Cohen 57. David R. Hawkins 90. Lars Muhl
24. Brian Weiss 58. Daniel Gilbert 91. Satish Kumar
25. Matthew Fox 59. Jack Canfield 92. Gary Snyder
26. Z’ev ben Shimon Halevi 60. Caroline Myss 93. Prem Rawat
27. Alejandro Jodorowsky 61. Philip Berg 94. David Deida
28. Peter Russell 62. Seyyed Hossein Nasr 95. Colette Baron Reid
29. Starhawk 63. Bruce Lipton 96. Thomas Moore
30. Michio Kaku 64. Karen Armstrong 97. Lorna Byrne
31. Ram Dass 65. Julia Cameron 98. Bernie Siegel
32. Diana Cooper 66. Lynne McTaggart 99. Anita Moorjani
33. Pope Benedict XVI 67. Dolores Cannon 100. James van Praagh
34. Vadim Zeland  

1- Dalai Lama. Born Lhamo Dondrub, Tenzin Gyatso is the 14th Dalai Lama. Tibetan Buddhists believe him to be a reincarnation of his predecessors and the Buddha of compassion. He is a vocal activist for Tibetan independence and has made an incredible contribution to global spirituality. He was awarded the Templeton Prize in 2012 and donated most of the prize money to the Save the Children fund in India. Time Magazine call him “The most influential person in the world”, while The Times commented “He draws crowds that no other spiritual leader or politician could hope to match…he seems to look at life in a different way to everyone else”. His latest books How to Be Compassionate: A Handbook for Creating Inner Peace and a Happier World and Towards The True Kinship Of Faiths: How the World’s Religions Can Come Together are now available in paperback. ::  Born in Taktser, Tibet :: 06/07/1935 :: Spiritual Leader

2 – Thich Nhat Hanh. Thich Nhat Hanh is a Vietnamese Buddhist Zen Master, poet, scholar and peace activist. During the war in Vietnam, he worked tirelessly for reconciliation between North and South Vietnam and his courageous efforts moved Martin Luther King to nominate him for the Nobel Peace Prize in 1967. He founded the Order of Interbeing and the Unified Buddhist Church, along with monasteries and spiritual centres in Vietnam, the USA and France. He lives in Plum Village, his meditation centre in France, and travels widely, leading retreats on the art of mindful living. His latest book Fear: Essential Wisdom for Getting through the Storm was published in November. :: Born in Thua Thien, Vietnam :: 11/10/1926 :: Spiritual Leader

3 – Eckhart Tolle. Eckhart’s profound yet simple teachings have helped countless people throughout the world find inner peace and greater fulfillment in their lives. At the core of the teachings lies the transformation of consciousness, a spiritual awakening that he sees as the next step in human evolution. His books, The Power of Now and the highly acclaimed follow-up A New Earth are two of the best-selling Mind, Body, Spirit books in the world. Tolle’s free online “un-course”—video teachings offered as reminders to the true source of peace and freedom within yourself – provides free resources to work towards a deeper level of consciousness. :: Born in Lünen, Germany :: 16/02/1948 :: Modern Teacher and Writer

Deepak Chopra4 – Deepak Chopra. As a writer on Ayurveda, mind-body medicine and spirituality, Chopra has had huge success with titles such as Ageless Body, Timeless Mind and The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success. His latest books are Super Brain: Unleashing the Explosive Power of Your Mind, co-written with neurologist Rudolph E. Tanzi, and God: A Story of Revelation. Also new in paperback Is God an Illusion: The Great Debate between Science and Spirituality, in which Chopra pits his views against leading physicist Leonard Mlodinow. :: Born in New Delhi, India :: 22/10/1946 :: Physician, writer and public speaker

5 – Rhonda Byrne. Well known for The Secret book and DVD, Byrne advocates the belief that we can all transcend our suffering by not falling prey to negative thoughts. She has been listed among Time Magazine’s list of 100 people who shape the world, and has also produced television shows. Her latest book, The Magic, was published in March 2012. :: Born in Australia :: 12/03/1951 :: Writer and TV/Film producer

 Wayne Dyer6 – Dr Wayne W Dyer. Affectionately called the “father of motivation” by his fans, Dyer is one of the most widely known and respected people in the field of self-empowerment. His childhood was spent in orphanages and foster homes, and he has overcome many obstacles to make his dreams come true. Today he spends much of his time showing others how to do the same. His latest book, Wishes Fulfilled: Mastering the Art of Manifesting, was published in February 2012. :: Born in Detroit, Michigan, USA :: 10/05/1940 :: Author and Speaker

Paulo Coelho7 Paulo Coelho. The Alchemist is one of the top selling books in history, with over 65 million copies sold in 150 countries. Coelho has sold more than 150 million books in over 150 countries worldwide, and his works have been translated into 71 languages.His new book Manuscript Found in Accra is published in April. :: Born in Rio de Janeiro, Brazil :: 24/08/1947 :: Novelist

Oprah Winfrey8 – Oprah Winfrey. Oprah might just be the most influential person in the world. She has discovered and advocated many spiritually influential thinkers—from Obama to Eckhart Tolle. Her multi-award-winning talk show became the highest-rated program of its kind in history. She now hosts Oprah’s Lifeclass (a self-help show), Super Soul Sunday (a spirituality show), and Oprah’s Next Chapter (an interview show) on her TV channel OWN: Oprah Winfrey Network. :: Born in Kosciusko, Mississippi, USA :: 29/01/1954 :: Talk Show Host, actress, producer and philanthropist

Nelson Mandela South Africa The Good News – Nelson Mandela. Mandela was an anti-apartheid activist and served 27 years in prison. After his release from prison in 1990, he led his party towards a multi-racial democracy and served as President of South Africa from 1994 to 1999; he advocates compassion and reconciliation and won the Nobel Peace Prize in 1993. He is active in fighting AIDS and racism, and his autobiography, Long Walk to Freedom is still an inspirational best seller. :: Born in Transkei, South Africa :: 18/07/1918 :: Political Activist

Byron Katie (c)Kasey Lennon10 – Byron Katie. Katie refers to her method of self-inquiry as ‘The Work’ and promotes the idea that we can liberate ourselves from suffering by not believing/listening to negative thoughts. Katie exemplifies her methods as she has overcome paranoia, suicidal thoughts and severe depression. In addition to her bestselling books, she teaches her methods at free public events, in prisons, hospitals, churches, corporations, shelters for survivors of domestic violence, universities and schools, at weekend intensives, and at her nine-day “School for The Work”. :: Born in USA :: 06/12/1942 :: Author and Speaker


For the full Spiritual 100 list 2013, see issue 33 of the Watkins Mind Body Spirit magazine.

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