safe, insightful talk alternative to family, friends, therapy, coaching

Posts tagged ‘fulfilment’

Daily Love… or Comfort?

TDL_FB-icon

Following is a recent post from The Daily Love blog, which is one of the few blogs that I have signed up for and then actually kept following!! The Guest authors on this site are fabulous and founder Mastin Kipp is a pretty insightful, inspiring and hip guy!  I highly encourage you to check this blog out (particularly if you are just beginning your self-awareness journey): http://thedailylove.com/ .

This snippet is a taste of Mastin’s wisdom, preceded by a fitting quote – which are offered daily to set the tone for the TDL blog.  More importantly, this is insight into how Mastin lives: life is too short, and simply too precious- – and FUN to live inauthentically.  In his own words:

“F-ING DITCH PLAN B!!!  Go ALL IN on Plan A!
Plan B is an f-ing distraction from your dreams!!!”

Also, find 25 minutes to watch the video below the article – you won’t be disappointed.  It’s proof that there is a sincere movement to shift consciousness to live more authentic lives, how Mastin’s efforts are a part of that, and how a strong, LOVING relationship is not only healthy – but just really cool!
(Disclaimer: video is uncut – unedited version of the above quote is included!)

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Is this Relationship About Love…
or Comfort?

Comfy or worn out?“You must constantly ask yourself these questions:

Who am I around?

What are they doing to me?

What have they got me reading?

What have they got me saying? Where do they have me going? What do they have me thinking? And most important, what do they have me becoming?

Then ask yourself the big question: Is that okay? Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change.”
Jim Rohn

Many of my clients come to me because they are in a relationship crisis. Most of my clients are women, and some of them, when they are in a relationship crisis, feel as if they have done something wrong. Their partner is telling them that they don’t recognize the person they are in a relationship with. At first, before we go a little deeper, some of my clients feel as if they are the bad guy.

Imagine who you could be.

But – upon further investigation, we see that the cause of the relationship crisis is that my client is choosing to grow and their partner is choosing to stay the same. I say it so often, but I say it because I feel like I want this to be one of the main mantra’s TDL provides you – relationships are containers for growth; just because relationships end doesn’t mean they were a failure if you learn the lesson that the relationship was meant to teach you. I repeat, RELATIONSHIPS ARE CONTAINERS FOR GROWTH!

So what happens is that we meet our partner at a certain level of growth and we are with them, we change, we evolve, we grow and at some point, we have a choice – we can grow together or we can grow apart. Most couples do not consciously make this choice. Most couples “slide” into this place and all of a sudden a relationship crisis blooms. And then wedead end roses ask ourselves the famous lyrics from The Clash, “Should I stay or should I go?”

This is a tough question to answer. And there isn’t a cookie cutter answer, either. But what I can say is, ask yourself these questions if you are considering leaving a relationship – “Is this relationship serving my empowerment?” and “Am I serving the empowerment of my partner?”

The answer to these two questions, if you are REALLY honest, will get you far. Oh and here is one more: “Am I in this relationship for LOVE or for comfort?” A lot of people stay in relationships that don’t serve their empowerment because it’s comfortable. But, as we have learned (and preach) at TDL, choosing the comfortable path isn’t always what’s best for us and it’s rarely what our SOUL is calling us to do. Our SOUL is calling us out toward adventure to learn, to risk, to dare and to find a relationship where we bond over our power rather than just our wounds.

How's that workin' for ya?Of course we must Love each other, and that includes each other’s dark side. BUT – can you see how bonding over your wounds, over your fears creates a certain type of relationship? You have wounds in common. This is called woundology.

When you focus on and bond over your wounds you are playing small IF you support each other in staying wounded. Can you see the conflict that comes when people bond over their wounds, support each other in staying wounded and then all of a sudden one person wants to grow? All of a sudden the relationship dynamic isn’t the same. One person is growing, no longer the victim, taking responsibility for their life – and the other person is still stuck in the pain of their wounds.

This is what creates many relationship crises. So, if you are in this place either in a personal or professional way – ask yourself:

“Was this relationship created because we bonded over and supported each others wounds? Did we support each other to stay wounded?”

“Is this relationship now serving my empowerment?”

“Am I serving my partner’s empowerment?”

If you were TOTALLY honest with yourself, what would you say? And knowing this, what would you DO?

A few affirmations for you:

What's it gonna be?I attract relationships and business partnerships that serve my empowerment.

I am worthy of being happy, simply because I exist.

I celebrate taking steps towards my empowerment and let go of what no longer fits.

Love,
Mastin

~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Mastin and partner Jenna give us some insight into who exactly brings The Daily Love into our lives, and what their personal relationship has both contributed and gained from this project of self-awareness and conscious living. Enjoy!
UPDATE: awww, they pulled the public access to the video – it was so good!

audio

Mastin Kipp is the founder of TheDailyLove.com – a website, daily email and twitter account that serves soulful inspiration to a new generation.  Started as a feed of quotes sent to Mastin’s friends, The Daily Love shot to fame after a tweet from Kim Kardashian. And a love monster was born.

Hosting Mastin on her weekly show Super Soul Sunday, Oprah dubbed him an “up and coming thought leader of the next generation of spiritual thinkers.”  Both an honor, and a mouthful.Mastin’s mission is to connect people back to what makes them happy. Happy people make better choices, and better choices make for a better planet.

His book, Float: An Achiever’s Guide to Happiness, is due out from Hay House in February 2014.

Advertisements

Tag Cloud