Regular Mental Health Care
As part of a healthy life recipe, a regular outlet for safe expression of thoughts and feelings is as essential as food and water. Our busy lives have eliminated the close social communities of the past, which were in fact, a daily, accessible, natural tool to self-manage our life stressors, source our true “tribes”, get support for our dreams; and maybe most importantly, a vehicle to perpetuate great self-worth through our service to others. This massive void leaves our plethora of thoughts percolating dangerously within. A lack of social connection has evolved a societal sense that our thoughts are unique, personal and vulnerable – because we don’t hear others stories, which are indeed, very similar. The absence of ongoing validation that we’re “normal”, and fresh perspectives from which to aid our choices has lead to a culture bearing more inner turmoil than our bodies were meant to handle; a belief system that we have to manage everything ourselves; and has evolved an increasing attitude, that getting support in our lives is a “weakness”. With little encouragement to share our vulnerabilities with our friends and neighbours, we’ve created a notion that revealing our thoughts, and any type of “mental” health care, is an indulgent, taboo part of life, and that “professional intervention’ is the only course of action.
“Never mistake knowledge for wisdom.
One helps you make a living; the other helps you make a life.”
I’m a FIRM believer in therapists, counselors and life coaches…
I credit the most significant evolution of my life and spirit to these invaluable resources.
> didn’t want these TYPES of services or
> couldn’t AFFORD these services
and still wanted a constructive resource outside of friends and family… my exhaustive searching and networking in Greater Vancouver found: NONE!!!
Mentoring is not about “help”: it’s about service.
“A bird doesn’t sing because it has an answer,
it sings because it has a song.”
As already mentioned (and definitely worth repeating!) I believe STRONGLY:
THERE IS A NICHE MISSING IN THE SELF-HELP WORLD.
I feel this way because I found myself desperately needing something that I COULDN’T FIND!
The STIGMA of reaching for “MENTAL HEALTH” support – simple as it seems, is still a HUGE barrier for many. So is an affordable counseling option.
In my personal situation, I was completely comfortable seeking input from professionals, but I too had barriers: cost was a significant block. Also, and perhaps judgementally, I questioned “street cred”; the life experience of counselors often felt limited to me. Can they really relate to my journey; have they walked in my shoes?? I often feel a lack of relatability in traditional support options, though perhaps they are just emotionally unavailable because of the barriers of their credentials.
I turned to some other logical routes, but..
~ Books/websites were hit-and-miss and time consuming…
~ Networking clubs were mostly “topic” oriented…
~ Community services and Groups were just too slowwww and too generic:
I WANT TO CUT TO THE CHASE AND FOCUS ON ME!!!
MOTIVATORS FOR SEEKING A MENTOR:
Talk is most beneficial just to get out of your own head: oftentimes- that’s all you need. In those early years on my journey, a peer mentor would have been perfect.
Other common motivators for seeking my services:
- Perspective in discovering:
WHAT IS MY PASSION… MY PURPOSE… WHO AM I!!!
- To understand and manage feelings of:
depression ~ anxiety ~ stress ~ “stuckness” ~ loneliness ~ FEAR!…
- Challenges around: career ~ relationships ~ family ~ health issues…
- Assessing if you might benefit from a focused action plan:
therapy ~ life/career coaching ~ medical intervention
- Identifying, assessing or modifying behaviour patterns:
family, cultural, workplace
- Adjusting to change: new to a city ~ new marriage ~ first-time Mom
- Pure curiosity: read some self-help books and want to discuss ~
exploring an issue that is not common to your personal circle or culture, or feels somewhat intimidating/embarrassing to raise
- Excitement: planning an event ~ sharing something that you’re not ready to go public with or that you feel judgement around (eg. writing a book, starting a business)
- Loneliness: a friendly ear when you need it ~ guidance to seek a social network and find “your people”
One of my clients refers to me and mentoring as:
‘a paid BFF without the drama!’
I think that’s actually a pretty good way to think of it!
OtherWise Resources hopes to fulfil for you that alternative resource that I could never find. Strange as it sounds: I would kill to have someone like me to talk to!!
Specifically, what might I talk to my peer mentor about… talk